Do You Know What's Worth Living For?

A blog of reasons to keep fighting, to keep going, to keep living, when it doesn't seem worth it or you are too tired to fight.

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Thank you

I just want to say thank you for all the people that give a shit.  One word, two words, or a whole story they all help.  Knowing that people understand how hard it is sometimes just to be alive helps me and so I like to believe it is helping others.  How could I possible be the only one suffering?  Thank you to all that have the courage to post. 

Dissociating? Ground Yourself.

mentalhealthkitten:

  • Play a video game (Skyrim helps me a lot, and Portal was great for grounding, too, when I was playing that), phone game (Bejeweled! Candy Crush!), or online game (CandyStandDress UpNeopetsBig FishRobot Unicorn).
  • Draw. Scribble away and feel how solid the materials are in your hands. Focus on the pressure of the utensil against paper. 
  • Write. Write one phrase over and over again if you must. “I am here,” is a good thing to write. Use a hard pen. Feel the pen slide over the page as you write. 
  • Close your eyes and breathe. Focus on your breathing. Count how many seconds it takes to breathe in, and then out. In through your nose, out through your mouth. In, and out. Then again.
  • While breathing deeply with your eyes closed, try and recall five things you could see when you had your eyes open. Picture them vividly. Try to describe them.
  • Concentrate hard on the things you can currently feel. Try and pinpoint at least three distinct sensations.
  • Concentrate on the taste in your mouth, and what you can smell.
  • LIsten for any sounds. Concentrate on them.
  • Sit in a chair, with your back straight and your feet firmly planted on the ground. Feel how the ground feels under your feet, how the chair you are sitting on feels, how your body feels. Focus on the sensations from your body touching the ground and the chair.
  • Meditate! Lie down. Get comfortable. Close your eyes. Try to clear your mind and let all thoughts go through without paying attention to them. Acknowledge the thoughts, but don’t let them gain control. While you meditate it helps to do the deep breathing exercise at the same time.
  • Pet your animals.
  • Hold an ice cube in your palm. 
  • Listen to loud music. Metal or heavy rock is especially good for grounding.
  • Try to make a phone call to a friend. Focus on their voice. Holding a conversation is a great way to force yourself to stay grounded.
  • Try to find familiar smells. Sniff your pillow, your old stuffed animal, your parent’s perfume/cologne, your OWN perfume/cologne, deodorant, even garbage works. 
  • Find yourself a chant, such as “I’m here, and I’m real.” Chant this to yourself, over and over again, until you get tongue-tied.
  • Practice mindful walking. Walk very slowly around the perimeter of the room you are in, feeling every step as you go, and recognizing the solidity of the ground beneath your feet.
  • Visually ground yourself. Stare at objects. Touch them if you have to, but really look at it. Don’t stare downward, but look up and out and around. Notice the world around you. Focus on each individual aspect of it. Try listing the colors you see in various objects.
  • Try taking quizzes online. Personal quizzes, math refreshers, whatever. Quizzes will force you to attempt to recall facts.

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Anxiety is not rude. Depression is not selfish. Schizophrenia is not wrong. Eating disorders are not a choice. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is not crazy. Mental illness isn’t self-centred, anymore than cancer is self-centred. It’s a medical illness.

Will I be something?
Am I something?

And the answer comes:
You already are.
You always were.
And you still have time to be.

—Anis Mojgani  (via elauxe)

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Anonymous asked: What are some of the options available to people who can't afford mental health treatment? People who have zero income and no transportation in states that do not have expanded medicaid?

mentalillnessmouse:

Hi Anon,

Here is what I found on psychcentral.com:

One of the biggest reasons people don’t seek therapy is money. People look at a therapist’s hourly rates — which might range from $100 to $250 — and immediately assume they can’t afford professional help. So they stop there.

But you do have various helpful options. Below, clinicians share, in no particular order, what you can do if you can’t afford treatment.

1. Check with your insurance.

“If you have insurance, ask your insurance plan to give you a list of providers who are either in your geographic area or who specialize in the issue you are seeking help with,” said Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. You might only have to pay a small co-pay, he said.

However, even if your insurance doesn’t cover therapy, get the details on what they do cover, said Julie A. Fast, a coach and author of Get It Done When You’re Depressed. For instance, your policy might still include the words “social worker,” she said.

2. Try a training clinic.

Training clinics offer clients a sliding scale. They’re typically located in universities where graduate students prepare to become clinical or counseling psychologists, said Kevin L. Chapman, Ph.D, a psychologist and associate professor in clinical psychology at theUniversity of Louisville. There, he said, students are “trained and supervised by licensed psychologists who typically have years of experience with specific mental health conditions.”

3. Try a community mental health center.

“Community mental health centers provide free or low-cost therapy options and services covered by Medicaid insurance,” said Julie Hanks, LCSW, a therapist and blogger at Psych Central. To find a center, search using Google or look at your state government website for the Department of Human Services, she said.

4. Read self-help books.

“Books are my first recommendation,” Fast said. Along with her book,Get It Done When You’re Depressed, she also suggested “the rather esoteric The Four Agreements for personal development [and] The Idiot’s Guide to Controlling Anxiety.”

You also can contact a local therapist for book recommendations for your specific concern, Olivardia said. “It can help narrow down the options and allow you to focus on quality resources,” he said.

5. Attend support groups. 

Support groups typically are free or at least more affordable than individual therapy. They may be run by mental health professionals or peers. Always ask a therapist if they also offer lower-cost group sessions, Fast said. (“Groups can be a lot less expensive if they accept cash,” she said.)

She suggested attending moderated support groups. “I always stress that groups that are run by the people in the group rarely work. It should be a structured system where a dispassionate person runs things. Otherwise it can just be a complaining session,” Fast said.

The great thing about groups is meeting other people who are struggling with similar issues, which can create “a safe, validating space,” Olivardia said.

Learn more about support groups in your area by visiting NAMI and the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Also, consider organizations such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA).

Consider, too, online support groups, such as one of the 180+mental health support groups here at Psych Central.

6. Ask about discounted rates.

“Cash is often more lucrative than going through the whole paperwork insurance thing,” Fast said. As such, some therapists might offer discounts. For instance, Fast’s therapist typically charges $200 an hour, but she worked with Fast for $50 an hour for a year.

Fast suggested asking clinicians the following questions: “If I don’t have insurance, do you have a cash policy?” Or, “I’m looking for a therapist but am on limited funds. Do you have any discount programs or a group available?” If they don’t, they might be able to refer you to a practitioner who does, she said.

7. Re-evaluate your expenses.

“There are some situations where ‘can’t afford’ is really about priorities,” Hanks said. Consider if you can reorganize your budget to accommodate therapy.

“I’ve worked with clients who ‘can’t afford’ my services but highly value therapy and choose to go without other things because they “can’t afford” not to be in therapy,” she said.

8. Check out podcasts and videos.

Fast also recommended self-help podcasts and videos, such as TED talks on YouTube. “They are very inspirational and have good advice,” she said. When searching for podcasts on iTunes, consider terms such as therapy or personal growth, she said. “I know this is not like seeing a therapist, but I believe that self growth requires personal time as well. It doesn’t all have to be about psychology either,” she said.

9. Visit websites for your particular concern.

“When an individual is privy to their mental health needs — [such as] ‘I’m having panic attacks’ or ‘I think I have OCD’ — landing on an association’s website can be ideal,” Chapman said.

For instance, he said, if you’re struggling with anxiety, you can find valuable resources at the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive TherapiesAnxiety and Depression Association of America and theInternational OCD Foundation.

There is also a wealth of information at Psych Central about self-help techniques, treatments, and books to check out. You can start by looking-up your mental health condition here.

10. Consult your congregation.

“If you belong to a religious congregation, talk to your preacher, pastor, or priest about your need and see if your church offers therapy services or is willing to help pay for therapy,” Hanks said.

11. Consider body therapy.

“Don’t forget body therapy… including chiropractic and massage,” Fast said. Schools usually charge small fees for services given by their students, she said.

As Olivardia said, “Nothing is more important than your physical and mental health.” If self-help resources and groups aren’t working, consider the price of not seeking professional help – because that might be steeper.

“Consider that there are costs for not getting treatment such as lost wages for missing work, strain on family relationships, and quality and length of your life,” Hanks said.

Best,

Lena